If you arrived here after I sent link in response to your IM, I would suggest you go back and read my note about IMs. If you are interested in participating in this program, please send any questions you may have in an e-mail. I will get back to you in a day or two. Possibly you've noticed there's a war on. My support project has priority over singles right now. Whispering Activist links are listed at end of this page.
(Links will be plugged in shortly, the temporary number I'm using cuts out during upload - sorry for delay - find working links below.)
Selective Singles
to
The Meet Market
Oh, gawd - lighten up! If you don't find a little word play reasonably amusing, go away right now, please.
This is a brand
new service, launched 7-8-01
(Best case timing according to astrological calculations - hey why not?)
Fine, now attitude properly adjusted? Very good, lovely to see you, so glad you stopped by. My name is Miss Attitude (a.k.a. Sheriff Attitude, so-dubbed by a former client, why later). This is a new service here, but it is not my first shot at the Yenta thing. About 10 years ago I found myself in the matchmaking biz quite by accident after starting an answering and message service for anyone in need of anonymity for whatever legitimate reason. Naturally it appealed to singles - no need to give out personal info before background checking after meeting an appealing stranger. Two of my first five clients happened to have interests in common ... my nosy self told each a little about the other ... they were still together when I relocated and, as far as I know, still are.
Who'd have thunk it?! Certainly not me, although I always was one who wanted all my friends to be friends. Had not a clue what I was doing in business, made it all up as it went along. I knew what I didn't like about the singles "scene." To my pleasant surprise, I discovered a lot of guys weren't into trolling the bars either. My clients then were the people you wouldn't find anywhere else. And so it shall be here, with a heavy emphasis on your circle of friends and their friends' recommendations and references. After all, friends don't let friends vegetate.
The Listings
Fast track, do hurry back, more info and a variety of entertainment await.
No matter the geography, everyone is encouraged to contact anyone with similar interests. That person may be in mousemate communication this very minute with the person who's just your cuppa tea in your area. Small Web ya know. I've lost track of how many people I've contacted (or vice versa) for a variety of reasons only to find we have this, that and the other in common and my old weird Uncle Harold used to party with his/her Cousin Jane or Sister Sue in the 60s. Getting the idea?
Start by "shopping" the listings (we don't call them ads here, waaay too tacky). Think about it, finding someone to share your time and space is very much like considering the features current/future space has to offer. What must you have, what can you live without? Compromise may, indeed, be necessary. Ain't no such thing as a perfect world or the beasties in it - go right to the Listings page or if you're not quite ready to get your feet wet, take a minute to read the following ...
Inside Out
How can you fall in love so
deeply,
On the Internet,
While talking to another person,
You have never met?
How can feelings flow so easy,
Sitting by a screen,
With one you're only talking to,
But you have never seen?
How can you draw so deeply,
From emotions that you hide,
That long ago were buried,
And you covet them inside?
Emotions that you do not share,
Within the world you see.
But, suddenly you meet someone,
Online, that sets them free.
Emotions you've forgotten,
That have not been used for years.
Come bubbling to the surface,
Bringing joy, and sometimes fears.
You love other people,
But this seems so different.
You cannot control it,
And it's nothing to resent.
Sometimes at night, you sit and wonder,
How can this thing be?
How can someone, I've never seen,
Have this effect on me?
What is it, about this love,
That we can't comprehend?
When all we tried to do at first,
Was have a cyber friend.
I've thought about it many times,
And how we make contact.
With other people in the world,
And how we all react.
I realized, that meeting people,
Is a major goal.
And in the world we live in,
It is always physical.
We are all attracted first,
By how they look to you.
You can say, "That's not important,"
But, you know it's true.
That is where it all begins,
They're pleasant to our eyes.
But, soon enough we realize,
That it is a disguise.
Looks are not important,
It won't show a person's heart.
But, that is where we all begin,
It's where we always start.
Now, I know, I understand,
What online love's about.
Online, you get to know the person,
From the inside...out.
If you don't start, it's certain you won't arrive.
No one can ruin your day without your permission.
Most people will be about as happy as they decide to be.
Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently.
Whatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will have.
Success stops when you do.
When your ship comes in, make sure you are willing to unload it.
You will never "have it all together."
Life is a journey ... not a destination.
The biggest lie on the planet: "When I get what I want I will be happy."
The best way to escape your problem is to solve it.
Ultimately, 'takers' lose and 'givers' win.
Life's precious moments don't have value unless they are shared.
We often fear the thing we want the most.
Walk around toxic waste dumps, not through them.
When you are in bed remember to close your eyes.
Yesterday was the deadline for all complaints.
Look for opportunities ... not guarantees.
He or she who laughs ... lasts.
Life is what's coming ... not what was.
Success is getting up one more time.
When things go wrong ... don't go with them.
It's OK to sit on your pity pot every now and again. Just be sure to flush every once in a
while.
Now is the most interesting time of all.
Can't take the credit, all collected anonymous e-mail wisdom
Please feel free to make a copy for referral the next time you're feeling a bit awkward, maybe not too sure which end is up.
This little guy
became the mascot of another one of my sites some time ago, he seems right at home here
too. Courtesy of Shirley ( Gran Gran's This and That ),
"Yes, I'm very aware that
this is not the way birds fly, but I was so excited to make this little fella do anything
- he's my very first animated gif."
I thought that was a very cool attitude so I asked if I could borrow him. What better representation - we all gotta fall on our face more than a few times before any real progress is made. I'm all for positive thinking, great expectations and all that rah rah, however, facts is facts :)
Too true too in the kitchen. Ah yes, you can learn to cook here too, another important point ... it's just as easy to fall in love with a good cook as a bad. Come back here when you've had a look around, my easy recipes will be waiting. Go on now, we'll go over the rules after you decide you like what you see. Listings - Find questions, instructions for yourself below.
Page will be under construction for a while, lotsa plans for additions. These things take time. Due to circumstances beyond my control, I may be offline as long as two days (July 10 and 11), hopefully no longer. Your patience is appreciated. Hard to tell what all might pop up for entertainment value as we go along - recipes, contests, prizes, birthday lists ... guest columns, chat room ... all suggestions welcome. And contributions! Dang - Aussie (www.woogly.com ) surprised me with the way too cool graphic at the top of page. Links will be "plugged in" as site map shortly.
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Ask Dr. Psycho
Advice to the lovelorn, shopworn, worn out, torn up,
used, abused, used up, wasted, pasted, and just plain curious - no charge to Miss
Attitude's clients
Seeks male companionship. I love long walks in the woods, riding in your pickup truck, hunting, camping, fishing trips, cozy winter nights spent lying by the fire, candlelight dinners will have me eating out of your hand. Rub me the right way and I will respond with tender caresses, I'll be at the front door when you get home from work. Kiss me and I'm yours. I'm a svelte good looking girl who loves to play. Call 565-2121 and ask for Daisy. The phone number is the ASPCA and I'm an eight-week-old black Labrador.
Please visit Dr. Psycho if the above had ya goin' for a minute. He's a good friend, and a nut all unto himself - not one of my other personalities :) Must admit, considering the amount of bull he usually throws, his advice is well worth the read. Questions may be addressed through and/or to me.
MsAtte2ude@aol.com
Uncanny factoid
(based on numerous case histories, and a few new ones already)
By joining, taking the plunge, the odds of finding a new love on your own, will, at least, double - I'm not kidding. Works the same way people who adopt almost always end up pregnant - but you're on your own there!
There is but one genuine love-potion ... consideration.
New
anti-depressant
Instead of swallowing, you throw the pills at anyone who appears to be having fun.
"Sometimes I lie awake at night, and I ask, 'Where have I gone wrong?' Then a voice says to me,'This is going to take more than one night.'" - Charlie Brown
The Mourner
Yes I know ...
really rotten :) - just couldn't help it.
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"You
always carry my photo in your handbag. Why?," the husband asked his wife.
"When there is a problem, no matter how impossible, I look at your picture and the
problem disappears," she said.
"You see how miraculous and powerful I am for you?," he asked.
"Yes, I see your picture and say to myself, 'What other problem can be greater than
this?'"
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Tech Support: Yes ma'am, how can I help you?
Customer: Well, after much consideration, I've decided to install Love.=A0 Can you guide
me through the process?
Tech Support: Yes I can help you, are you ready to proceed?
Customer: Well, I'm not very technical, but I think I'm ready. What do I do first?
Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart ma'am?
Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now.=A0 Is it okay to install
Love while they are running?
Tech Support: What programs are running ma'am?
Customer: Let's see, I have Past-Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge, and Resentment running
right now.
Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past-Hurt from your current operating
system. It may remain in your permanent memory, but it will no longer disrupt other
programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of it's own called
High Self-Esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those
programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Can you turn those off ma'am?
Customer: I don't know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how?
Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many
times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have completely erased.
Customer: Okay done, Love has started installing itself. Is that normal?
Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. You need to begin
connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.
Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, "Error-program not run on
external components. What should I do?
Tech Support: Don't worry ma'am, It means the Love program is set-up to run on Internal
Hearts but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it means you have
to Love yourself before you can Love others.
Customer: So what should I do?
Tech Support: Can you pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files:
Forgive-Self; Realize Your Worth; and Acknowledge Your Limitations.
Customer: OK, done.
Tech Support: Now copy them to the "My Heart" directory. The system will
overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also, you need to
delete Verbose Self-Criticism from all directories and empty your Recycle Bin to make sure
it is completely gone and never comes back.font
Customer: Got it. Hey!!! My Heart is filling up with new files. Smile is playing on my
monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over My Heart. Is this
normal?
Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes a while, but eventually everything gets it at
the proper time. So Love is installed and running. One more thing before we hang-up, Love
is Freeware. Be sure to give it and its various modules to everyone you meet. They will in
turn share it with others and return some cool modules back to you.
Customer: I promise to do just that. By the way, what's your name?
Tech Support: Just call me the Divine Cardiologist, also known as the Great Physician, or
just "I AM."
Most people feel all they need is an annual checkup to stay heart-healthy; but the
manufacturer (ME) suggests a daily maintenance schedule for maximum Love efficiency. KEEP
IN TOUCH!
Our Mirror
The good you
find in others, is in you too.
The faults you find in others, are your faults as well.
After all, to recognize something you must know it.
The possibilities you see in others, are possible for you as well.
The beauty you see around you, is your beauty.
The world around you is a reflection, a mirror showing you the person you are.
To change your world, you must change yourself.
To blame and complain will only make matters worse.
Whatever you care about, is your responsibility.
What you see in others, shows you yourself.
See the best in others, and you will be your best.
Give to others, and you give to yourself.
Appreciate beauty, and you will be beautiful.
Admire creativity, and you will be creative.
Love, and you will be loved.
Seek to understand, and you will be understood.
Listen, and your voice will be heard.
Teach, and you will learn.
Show your best face to the mirror, and you'll be happy with the face looking back at you.
Men who use electric razors may make better matches than those who use traditional razors, a recent survey reveals. Electric-shaver users want more kids, call their moms more often, and are more likely to snuggle than men who shave with a blade, says a New York ad agency that queried 384 men. It may come as no surprise that the survey was done to pitch electric shavers, but its findings suggest some women may prefer non-electric men. While those who use electric shavers say they're the type who go for romantic walks on the beach on a first date, traditional shavers are more likely to "spend top dollar."
The
Pig Test
(amazingly right on usually)
Draw a pig. This is not an art contest - do the best you can, don't take forever. Then scroll down to check your results - no peeking!
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If the pig is at the top of the paper, you're an optimist. If the
pig is in the center of the paper, you're a realist. If the pig is at the bottom of the
paper, you're a pessimist.
If the pig faces left, you're fond of tradition and family. In addition, you're friendly
and loving. And you never forget birthdays and anniversaries.
If the pig faces right, you're innovative and active, but you don't have a strong sense of
family or tradition and you never remember dates.
If the pig faces the front (toward you), you're direct, and you enjoy playing devil's
advocate. You neither fear nor avoid discussions or confrontations.
If the pig has many details, you're analytical, cautious, and distrustful.
If the pig has few details, you're emotional and possibly naive. You miss a lot going on
around you, because you don't pay attention to details, and you have a tendency to take
risks.
If the pig has less than four legs showing, you're insecure.
If the pig has four legs showing, you're secure and stubborn. You like to stick to your
ideas.
The size of the pig's ears indicate how willing you are to listen. The bigger the ears,
the better you are at listening.
The length of the pig's tail indicates the quality of your sex life.
Best get that little piggy to the market fast :)
Suggestions to be incorporated - nothing is written in blood here. Listings can always be
updated.
Just getting organized, few rough edges, but no time like the present to jump in. Online
is the only way to get to the people you won't meet anywhere else. The "good"
guys don't like bars any better than women do. Use the following questions as a guide,
add/ignore whatever you like - listings can be updated at any time.
Participants are encouraged to display originality and sense of humor - if you don't want
to submit a picture of your face, how about a picture of your car, or a stick figure, or
your dog, or even just a nice picture of Brad Pitt/Phyllis Diller (~.*)
Graphics and 'toons will be considered, subject to size and reduction.
Copy and paste questions into an E, send a copy to friend while you're at it. Type in your
answers. Any questions, contact MsAtte2ude@aol.com,
I will get back to you if I'm not sure what you mean, and will send link to your listing
as soon as its added (max time should be 48 hours, more likely sooner).
Need code name of your choice (or your own real name is OK, up to you) and a number.
Birthday easiest, also helpful for search purposes. I will not be charging for forwarding
so if you want to try including your screen name, it's fine with me (can be removed if aol
IMs become a problem). Also, please tell me where/how you heard about the service. All
listings are free during blast-off, and always will be for a minimum of two weeks. And
always for anyone who links/promotes (on site, newsletters, e-zines). More the merrier,
get busy, talk to your friends ...
Have fun here, it's not The Inquisition.
Honesty counts above all. While it will limit
response, it will also weed out incompatibles - opposites may attract, livin' with 'em
gets old real fast.
What's the stupidest movie or TV show you ever loved?
How old are you? Physically and mentally?
Age range preferred:
Would you try peanut butter on pancakes/have you?
"10 Commandments of Meeting Cyberdates" - need input here!
Special interests:
List current and possible future (parents, grown kids) occupants of your home, describe it
and them (include critters):
Location/willing to travel or move:
Smoking/willing to put up with it/gag, no way:
Dog/cat/allergic:
Kids/allergic:
Am/pm type:
Lively, outgoing/stay home:
Level of security/insecurity (ego/financial/screening before meeting):
Everyday habits/bug-a-boo(s), good and/or irritating/compulsive:
Strongest want/need/desire:
Thing/being/"state of" you miss the most:
Personal quality/accomplishment or deed you are most proud of/regret:
Spontaneous/gotta think about it:
Rate yourself on the following scales:
Neat/slob (home/car/personal):
City/country:
Nerd/hip:
Assertive/wimp:
Quiet/talkative:
Opinionated/go with the flow:
Open to new ideas/my way or the highway:
Leader/follower:
Instigator/peacemaker:
Causes you support/fight (for or against) actively/ignore:
Do you care which way the TP comes off the roll? Why?
Usual wardrobe habits (casual/designer/whatever):
Bed must be made?
Critters allowed in bed? Is there room for one more?
Want a cake for your birthday/usually bake/buy for someone special?
Like surprises?
Usually make decisions by gut feelings or research, include examples:
Thoughts on spirituality:
Politics:
Beliefs/superstitions:
Education/intelligence:
Social status:
Celebrity or fictional character you admire/respect/can't stand or people say you remind
them of and why:
No wasting time with the fireplace and walking the beach fantasies, what is your REAL idea
of the perfect date. Have you had a perfect date?
Everyone needs to be honest about gambling habits/drinking/drug use, past and present, RX
details included.
There is no point to lying about appearance either, some people have all their original
parts in working order, some don't - so what, if it makes a difference, say so.
In general, happy with yourself/could use a little improvement/I'm a mess:
Amount of time you are comfortable being alone:
Current relationship status - honesty is imperative. In the past I had several clients who
were married but for a number of legitimate reasons, divorce was out of the question. I
did not have a problem with that if those involved know what's going on and why.
OK, anything else? Maybe a few key words a friend would use to
describe you?
Thanks for participating in the blast off,
Martha Jones
a.k.a. Miss/Sheriff Attitude
BTW, if I'd been on the 'net when I ran this service before, there'd be a whole lot more
babies already named after me. Scary :) I actually used to do this all without a computer,
possibilities here are endless.
Response to intro letter sent to friends has already exceeded expectation, please read the
following if you did not receive intro letter directly from me.
Everybody loves matchmaking.
The key to the whole thing on here, to stand out, is screening and references which will
all be checked to the best of my ability with the understanding that there is a limit and
any adult with half a brain knows to be careful anyway. The good news is, one does need at
least half a brain to run a computer, therefore, that's one step ahead of the usual crowd.
There will be no BS. People have tried before. I kept their money and told them they
should have read what they were signing. Hence, the Sheriff label. Nobody got away with
anything in my town and they won't on here either, trust me, it's only a matter of time.
I need a minimum of 10 people immediately, they will be freebies, I'll charge the next 25
$10., the next 25 $25 and after that it'll be $50 to cover least six months, more likely a
year. Opinions on those rates are welcome and will be considered, I can start cheap
because my time is the only expense. If it takes off big time I will raise prices right
away for new listings. BTW, I never use the word ad because that is extremely tacky.
Choosing a person to spend time with is quite similar to deciding what you demand or are
willing to settle for in a new home, think about it.
Pics will be optional as will links to personal sites. My service is limited to helping
with listing, getting it posted and forwarding mail. Confidentiality is guaranteed, it
will be up to the individual to decide when anonymity is no longer required.
My nosy self will, of course, want to know how things are progressing. I will definitely
not waste my time getting in the middle of any ridiculous game playing or listening to
whining.
Linkers
http://www.passionup.com/fun/fun646.htm
- true and false - how guilty are you?
I have not checked any of the below - comments are from source: DreamLoversMail@aol.com
Relationships (Articles
focusing on relationships from InnerSelf.com
http://www.articleindex.com/Relationships/index.shtml
PsychTests.com:
Psychological testing and data management tools for professionals.
http://www.psychtests.com/
a bunch of tests to do for fun ...
from your personality to what kind of person your are :-)
Personality Test
http://www.ullazang.com/personality.html
Sanity
Test
http://glazeddoughnut.terrashare.com
LOL!! this one looks like a fun one
to do.
RB: Are You a Giver or a Taker in Bed --
Giver or Taker?
http://homearts.com/rb/life/05giveb5.htm
Hmm another fun one to do
thewebhouse.net - Love
Tests, IQ Tests, Fun Questionnaires, Quizzes, Personality Tests and Personal Ads Service.
http://thewebhouse.net/
more fun ones to do
http://www.therealmartha.com/WAwelcomeintro/index.htm
Whispering Activist intro
http://www.therealmartha.com/flagmore/index.htm
THE Flag
http://www.therealmartha.com/WANews/index.htm
WA News
http://www.therealmartha.com/WAmixed/index.htm
WA Mixed Bag
http://www.therealmartha.com/WA919DoxBun/index.htm
WA 9-19
http://www.therealmartha.com/WA%209-17%20both/index.htm
(as is with %20s)
WA 9-17
http://www.therealmartha.com/WhisperActive/index.htm
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